Deployment
When my husband was deployed, being able to FaceTime him helped a lot. We would try to chat on a daily basis but obviously if he had to go out on a mission, it didn’t always happen.
But when it did happen, I’d be excited that I could see him. The kids would be thrilled to see their Daddy as well. It was precious time when I could pull out our army toys for kids and they could really feeling like they were playing with daddy. This technology has truly changed family life during deployments. Still, there are some things you SHOULDN’T do while chatting on FaceTime your service member.
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1. Avoid showing up on camera naked.
Odds are, your conversation is being monitored. You may also want to watch what you say. Telling your man everything you want to do to him when he returns might get awkward if someone is listening. This is much better sent in a letter.
2. Speak cautiously.
……because if someone isn’t monitoring your conversation, your husband probably has a roommate and HE can hear. My husband once said that he had a roommate whose wife always spoke dirty to him and Tom would overhear and be like, “Dude, come on!” He ended up asking me to send him noise canceling headphones.
3. Act natural.
Constantly being upbeat might get creepy. If I were constantly happy my husband would be all, “What’s going on? Why does your smile look forced? You didn’t get Botox did you? Please don’t turn into one of those real housewives with the plastic faces.” Being you is always best, even if that includes a tear or a gripe from time to time.
4. Focus.
Don’t get distracted. Honestly, it would be my HUSBAND who would get distracted. Sometimes he’d have the TV on and he’d glance over when I was trying to talk to him. I’d be all, “Um, hello, wife is trying to talk here,” and he’d be all, “Mmmmhmmm,” while watching the screen.
5. Embrace secrecy.
He probably can’t tell you details, if any, over Facetime. My husband had to message me info on when he’d be coming home. He wasn’t always able to tell me what he did that day either. He would just say, “Confidential,” and I’d understand that he’d tell me about it when he returned home. If he was able to. There were some things he did where he was sworn to secrecy.
6. It’s okay to be real.
Dress up. I’m KIDDING. I mean, dress up if you want, but I was mostly in my sweats with messy hair whenever I spoke to my husband. Sorry. I was chasing around his kids all day. I had a friend who said she always put on a nice dress with full on makeup whenever she spoke to her guy. Meanwhile, I was conversing with mine with Cheerios in my hair if it were one of THOSE mornings.
7. Be cool when your faces freeze.
Yes, the screen will most likely freeze a few times. Attempt to not lose your cool when it happens. Just try to reconnect and if it doesn’t, don’t panic. Sometimes the internet is horrible over there.
I would seriously panic when this would happen and think the worst. This is not healthy. I needed to chill out and remember that my husband was there to WORK, not relax.
8. Ugly cry after, not during.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with a few tears or sharing your feelings. But the big deployment meltdown is sometimes best without an audience. I admit, I burst into tears a few times because it could get overwhelming being alone and my husband’s eyes would grow big and he’d be like, “Um..it’s okay? Um…do you have chocolate in the house? Maybe go eat that?” (Duh, I always had chocolate in the house and yes, it did help.)
9. It’s not personal.
Your service member may not want to talk for hours on end, and trust me when I say it’s not you. It’s pretty typical to experience shorter call times during deployment. It may have a lot more to do with your service member being in “deployment mode” than anything else.
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I am so grateful that I was able to communicate and see my husband while he was deployed. True, the conversations didn’t always go perfectly, but for the most part, they helped me get through the time apart.
Did you FaceTime your service member a lot when he deployed?
Amber Myers is a proud military wife and mother to two kids who drive her to eat lots of chocolate. She blogs over at Airing My Laundry. You can find her on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Pinterest.
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So incredibly lucky to be able to Facetime with mine. I love and cherish every minute of it.
Yes, it is a wonderful thing to be able to do!
My husband is currently deployed. We’ve been together almost 7 years & he has only been in the military for a year and change. We have a 3 year old who will ask about him everyday. One minute, my husband is happy, in love, & talks about how he misses us. The next thing I know, he goes weeks without talking to us. He avoids us all the time. He rather play video games, basketball, & drink. When I tell ask him to call our son, he blows him off. I can not take this hot and cold behavior anymore. Especially when I am being as supportive as I possibly can, while trying to distract our toddler. This has become very overwhelming & now I want to leave this military life behind & start over fresh with my son & I. It’s better that we part ways now, before he gets old enough to understand.
Has your situation gotten any better?
I have a girlfriend who is supposedly in Afghanistan… She says that to keep our relationship going, I need to purchase a permit call card to use Skype(like almost $400). Is this true, or a scam?
Scam
I’m a military girlfriend who has been online since April of 2018 . We have never been able to have a video chat due to his pc being old. We have chatted on the phone with each other, have fallen deeply in love with each other but I’m afraid ?because I’m always having to send him money ?. I do trust him and the circumstances are always very real, should I go ahead this one last time to bring him home?
Why do u have to send him money to come home?
I have a military boyfriend as well and he says I have to register my phone number so he can be able to talk to me more and I was just wondering if that was true
If you always have to send him money or buy iTunes, Amazon, Google Pay and Steam cards then it is a Scam!!!
So be careful.
Military soldiers don’t need money to come home that is no excuse for them to come home from deployment when they are ready to come home and have been discharged from their service duties they will come home via military
My boyfriend says he cant call or skype and I cant show his picture off Thats against regulations.Hes in the Navy in Iraq. Hes a RDML Im so confused why isnt this allowed
I have many questions and not sure where to begin because I think I have been scammed. I met this guy online over 2 years ago. I fully believed he was the real deal. He talks to me every day and throughout my day. We have never skyped, just text email and phone calls. I get run arounds. Now, 2 things I am inquiring about. I tried to research him to see if he is real, all photos I sent thru search engines if any came up he had them removed. People who look for stolen valor has contacted him and he contacted me why I was searching, which caused fights between him and I. Now he tells me his money is locked into an account so when he gets home he has access to it but he’s requiring money from me until he is out of deployment. I dont know what is true anymore. I have had 4 bank accounts taken away for possible fraudulent reasons I cant have more.
I was supposedly given another email address for this certain request…. The response was from a guy who said that she was risking her job in telling me everything that I knew?… & that she could lose her job. He also said that I need to talk to “my woman” if I wanted this top secret calling permit that only 50 or so officers that were on this mission & were only given 30min notice b4 they left overseas…. Someone plz help…. I called Ft Dix and spoke with with 2 different folks from 2 different #s who were positive in telling me that it was a total scam and to report them & their email addresses….. She insists that it is still real… I told her If it’s still real, that I would see her when she got home, but I wasn’t sending any money…. ANY ADVICE?… Much love❤️ to all those who actually serve, or are supporting their other halves during their deployment.
Thanks again❤️
GK
If she asked for money or gift cards then it is a scam.
Hi… i’m new here.. i want to ask, if my boyfriend can leave his duty during his deployment to other country and as his girlfriend do i need to pay his leaving before they process his leave request? Please help me so that i know what to do.. we just met at dating application and he want me to meet in person,, i currently living at singapore and he is an US army.
Scam
Yes I am a new military is boyfriend me and we’re still staying very strong in together just 6 months this falling in love and we’re still a lots texting on hangout on app and yes I really want My rock keith would meet me in my apartment or working very soon and hopefully praying friends anytime catch-up talks texting me louise cahir xxxx
How did you meet your boyfriend thru face ? I just meet this guy thru face and started texting thru hangout but I am scared that he can be a cat fish a scammer . How can I make sure his not a scammer? Help please
I have all these same worries! Did you find out anything?
If he asked you for money or iTunes, Amazon, Google Play and Steam card then he is a Scammer!!!
Be careful please.
Scammers always asking you to go on Hangouts or WhatsApp!!!
I’m chatting someone who said he is currently working in the US Military army., he’s gentle and nice to me in all aspects.., we do have regular chats but something is missing.., we can’t do any of audio calls or video calls because of the strict law in the US Military base in Fort Drum, New York., is this the real situation in the army..,? But thanks God he never ask for money or something..,
First, ask for his email. Military email ends in mil. If he has professed his love for you in two or three days, that’s not real. Does he call you babe alot? Does he ask you what you ate? Do you have a hard time understanding him? Are his verbs wrong? Does he say he has no access to his money? If yes is your answer to these then you are being scammed. Never send money or gift cards. They usually have a sob story. They are a widower with kids, their parents are passed away….things like that.
Can you hear them if they video call u
im very confused.
I just met a guy from the military and we are texting over Whatsup.He is deployed in turkey he says. He has sending me pictures and I had search the pictures but nothing come up he ask about my kids every day and reasure me everyday and telling me he miss me and loves me and whenever i had try to break up with him he has fighting for me but at the same time he has ask me for giftcards and money but when I tell him that im worried about it he tells me that I dont have to if I dont want to and he is not getting mad at me or anything is it a scam or real ?
I have been talking to a sgt in the marines for 3 weeks on hangouts, met on Facebook . He has sent me his military id and a video of him on the ocean, along many other photos, his social security number and mos number and states he will be retiring after 20 years of service. My daughter told me to have him take a picture of him touching his nose and send it to me and he did. I’m still very skeptical. He tells me that he wants to be with me. He first wanted to invest in cell phones well that didn’t go through now he wants to invest in Bitcoin. He did send me money, not directly from him though he said it was through a friend here in the states, to do the cell phone deal but when it didn’t go through he had me get stem and google play cards. He said he was sending me money to invest in it. I just don’t know what to think. I would like to think he’s real and being truthful but just don’t know. He calls me over hangouts, he is a bi racial man and has a accent but now I’m use to it cause he does call me a lot. Please someone give me some advice!
He stated he is in Kuwait and is stationed in San Diego! I just want to know if I’m being scammed or not!
Yes i FaceTime my boyfriend everyday or every other day! It’s our first deployment and FaceTime has been wonderful. It’s great seeing him.
Does it cost you extra money to be able to do that? Is it free? I’m in a similar situation & my girlfriend claims that I needa “call permit” to be able to communicate. Thanks for any help you can give!
A gf/bf doesn’t need any money at all from anyone while deployed. EVER! I have had 2 scammers that tried to get to me to send money etc. Now 1 of them contacted me again, wanting to tell the “truth”. Said he was a 22yr old Nigerian scamming ppl with 3 others in the same room. Saw them via facetime. And why they want to do the facetime is because they are recording me/other women and men, so they can get more material for their scam . They take the pics you get sent mainly from Instagram, Fb, Twitter, WhatsApp and other sites too. Scammers have many profiles and they use online translators. This Nigerian showed on facetime one of his victims and he was txtng in Spanish to a pretty girl in Puerto Rico. Fluently.
What I would like to know is that is there a website where you can make a report and send the pics you’ve received from the scammer so that the the real person would be found and let him/her know about it……
Main thing is :NEVER EVER send anything to these ppl! Chat all you like, have fun but no money, no gift cards of any kind to be sent. And be very careful of your pics you put out on social media, some day somewhere somebody uses them for their own criminal purposes.
Be safe all of you 💖
My husbands fist deployment was many years ago and we didn’t have facetime or skype.
Only spoke twice by phone in 7 months. All we had were letters.
So nice to have this! Stay connected but good old fashion letters are nice to have in the long run.
So glad the days of horrible government phone calls the always cut out are over. You get a call talk for a few minutes then bam, your call is disconnected. And you better always have your phone near you because you never knew when a call would come. Our first deployment I did not even hear from my DH for the first 3 months, and after that a few calls and letters was all we had. Now that I have kids and FaceTime is a life saver. Being able to see their dad makes all the difference. And I know my youngest will not forget her daddy while he is gone like my first daughter did during her first deployment.
Aww I wish they could FaceTime from the ships. Two months into this deployment and so far only one phone call (which cost $89 bc he used his cell in port…). Can’t complain too much, at least we have email..
I’m a new military girlfriend. He says he can’t call or FaceTime yet. We communicate thru hangouts (Google app)… does this sound legit? I’m a little skeptical and doubtful. I would love some input to put my mind at ease. It is hard to not see him or hear him. Any suggestions?
I m also a new military girlfriend. I would like it if you could send me an email please… we also communicate via Google Hangouts app… in the beginning we communicated through FB messenger, he said he cant skype me cos he don’t have web cam…,
You know as a Vietnam Vet, all we had was free snail mail, and a pay phone , but today access to communicate should be excellent and available! It is all about Morale !
Hey
I’m new here. Well I recently met my boyfriend through online and it has been weeks now he is currently deployed in Yemen but from US military. Well he doesn’t ask for money but whenever I want to video or audio call him he says it’s a bit restricted their but he will find time to do so but ever since he hasn’t, is this even True that he can’t make calls. He does call me babe quit Alot ,I have no problem with that but I just wanted to know if he is real or just Messing around. Well he shared part of his story life with me, he got two loving kids but unfortunately his a widower.
I want to hold on and see how this will end but also to know your thoughts about this since I have no experience with this.
I’m having the same issue been messaging (hangout) a US Army soldier in Yemen for a couple of weeks. I also have issues with conversing with him. Would like to share more with you jeandt75 @ outlook. Com
It really depends on where they are. I’m lucky because he can FaceTime. But there’s are times when he can’t FaceTime or call but he can still message. I spent time freaking out when I didn’t hear from him or hanging up on him when I thought he was being mean because I was super emotional thanks to Mother Nature. I say be patient. They are at the mercy of their branch and it isn’t as easy for them to reach out as it would if they were a civilian.
I’ve been with my partner for over 4 years and have done deployments through, he works on the ships-there are some ships that have WiFi that might or might not be on depending on where in the world they are. There are a lot of Middle East countries that have banded Video and voice calls over wifi-be that the ships or in port…it just comes with the job…..
We had one deployment where he was on ‘blackout’ for over half of it too.
It really does depend but it does sound like your boyfriend is being legit.
You have to try hard to not get angry and be strong. I hate ever part of his job but I do it because I love him and want my life with him, even if waiting for months on end for him just for him to go again!
You can’t help who you call in love with.
Same here.. I meet this guy on my IG Account we became friends and more, but I haven’t seen his face cuz he said FaceTime and phone calls are not allowed where he is deployed. It’s been almost 4 months now and I still don’t know if I’m really talking to the same person I accepted through my IG.
Same here I’ve been texting him back and for about three months in Hangout first it was Facebook then he said was hack and now it’s on Hangout he says he’s love me I see pictures of him but I don’t know if I talk into the same guy or not
I can make face calls on hangouts, so that’s interesting. What’s his name? I hope we don’t all have the same boyfriend!
Yeah what is his name that would be interesting
Rosie, Has he sent you pictures and please don’t send him money if he asks
Where is he deployed
Just be careful if he starts asking for money or gift cards then he is a scammer!!!
From my experience.
i need a help with this as well, i met on Instagram soldier Lincoln Smarty. He gave me a contact on Hangouts and start talking ask he loves me etc, showed me photos his, his children and some movies. after that he ask ne about gift card iTunes for his daughter ($100 costs). I think its scam but… what i need to do
Same here, met on Facebook. Started talking through Hangouts , seen his pictures but never have we had a video or audio calls. I just wanted to know if they are being monitored even through Hangouts? Or are they just excuses
This same thing has been going on with me. It’s been about a year now. He says he misses me and loves me very much. He did call me in the beginning, but I was not interested. Now he cannot and wanted me to send him money to come home for Christmas. I wished I could have but I really have been hurt by guys. I don’t have that kind of money anyway, and there are so many scams out there. I’m terrified, I haven’t had anyone really, in 6 years. I pray this is real, I deserve him. Can we find out? I tried the obvious searches…
If he is in the military he does not need money to come home.. He may be a scam.
He should have money! Overseas pay, combat pay, Etc
If he asked for money then he is not a real Military.
Do not send money to them.
You can find out by using image search on Socialcatfish.com or Yandex.com
That is exactly how mine is going too. Very skeptical myself
I’m all new to the deployment thing and it’s hard for me. I know he’s coming home but it’s so freaking hard and long, we are getting married when he gets home and the good thing is he retires in November I can’t wait for him to get home to me I miss him so much. I don’t know how you all do it time after time this is my first deployment he’s been gone sense December he’s supposed to come home in November, we text a lot
I’ve been in a long distance relationship with my significant other (Army Sergeant) for about two years now, and the one thing I have difficulty coming to terms with is the lack of information. My SO doesn’t like to talk about work in general, but now that he’s been deployed it’s even more frustrating to not be told practically anything. I understand some things are confidential but it seem like he’s withholding even the small things. How can I encourage him to open up a bit more if he’s able to? Or if there are any resources I can turn to that explain work life, please point me to them. For reference, I am Canadian and had absolutely no experience with military life before meeting my American soldier.
Am. I being scammed ? I’ve been talking “texting ” and on hang OUT with some one who says he is a soldier deployed over seas and says he can’t call me ,or even see me when he comes home for a break if my name and phone number aren’t on his inlisted list? Is this true ? He wants me to do it
That is a scam.
Hi! I don’t know about the rules of US Army deployment. This is my first time to have a soldier’s boyfriend. We talk to Instgram and whatsApp.
Is it true that if your boyfriend, fiance or husband wants to go home or he wants to deployd to another safe country, you need to send a message to their General to ask him or you can request him that if he could send him to the other safe country or home? Please i need your asap reply. Thanks
No this is a scam
Am I being scammed ? I have been talking in message with a guy telling he is a US army and now in Afghanistan. He send me his pics in his uniform an videos talking with his staff. When I doubt on him he did video call for a second. He used to tell is against his rules to audio call and video call but took risk to proof . We have to pay money for our boyfriend personal leave or not if he is in Afghanistan.
Hmmm very interesting I’m in the same situation , very frustrating .
It’s a Scam!!!
Do not send them money.
Absolute scam.
Do they have phones, one wants my cell phone ID number and password. To get phones for his friends and said his commander would reimburse me when he gets home. And them their children call you mom. And send their children money for school supplies. Do they do that?
ScamHaters United. Do reverse image search ask for his military e mail account. Please contact ScsmHaters immediately view all the aroma ce Scams going on. Never give any personal Information. Thst is a scam regarding cell phones
It’s a scam!!!
Do not send any money or gift cards to them.
Hi Karen I saw your msg and had to reply I too am working now ifor I been scalmed as I mwet him on a dating website and we hit it off stright away ,then we chatted on whats app for two weeks, then he said he been deployed to afRica for 4 weeks,and in that time I sent msg to what’s and no reply,and the 4 weeks is up this week
I’ve been speaking to someone in the Navy on whats app..we’ve exchanged photos & he’s in navy uniform in one but he wants to face time me. He’s telling me he’s IN Africa for another 2 months and that I have to pay for phone voucher to speak to him on face time? I suggested FB messenger but he says he doesn’t have Facebook. Is this legit??
Scam!
Yes this is called bullshit! When home on leave you can visit anyone!!
Where is he deployed at and where does he say he is stationed at when not in deployment. Just curious
My husband was in the Navy back in the 1980s.. Boy FaceTime and text would have been awesome! My daughter is currently a Marine who will be deployed soon ..I am kinda jealous of her .. But I have boxes of letters that I hold so dearly…
Tell your daughter “ Semper Fi”
Is it possible to load a story on Facebook when it is a Face Account. I am talking to some Soldier in Afghanistan that is very active on his Facebook Account, with daily updates and stories.
I just recently met a US ARMY who’s currently deployed in Qatar from an online dating app a week ago. Everything he told me about himself sounds legit so far. During the first week of talking to each other, he was really consistent. He always call and chat me via skype on different hours (maybe whenever he’s on his rest time). He even requested for a video call via skype but I declined co’z I’m too paranoid thinking he might be a scam and will record our video call or whatsoever. However, last Sunday, he didn’t contact me for the whole day. I was messaging him and didn’t get any response until Monday. He called me and explained that their base was being attacked by a local terrorist in Qatar. And since he’s a Commanding Officer of his Battalion, he needs to report the incident to their US base which taken lots of his hours (Thank God he’s ok). And that was the last time he called me. I was messaging him since Tuesday until today but never received any response yet. Though he message me last Wednesday while I was at work to say Hi and How are you. I didn’t see his message right away and responded aftet 4 mins. But he never responded to me anymore. I keep on sending him messages but I’m not receiving any response from him even until today.
I have no idea how busy a deployed US ARMY can get but what’s weird for me was his Skype account is always on Active Status since the attack incident, so I’m assuming he can see all my messages so why he’s not responding?
And BTW, he mentioned that his dad is in the ARMY too (ARMY General) and sent me picture of them together in uniform which looks legit. And he also mentioned that he has plan of retiring after his Qatar mission (which will end a week from now) co’z he doesn’t want to get deployed anymore and just planning to do some business. He never asked me for any money even after saying about doing some business after retirement. Though he said he’s been in the army for 11 yrs only. Is it possible to retire with that long of service?
Well, my main concern is I wanted to know if there’s any way I can confirm if he’s a legit US ARMY and if anyone can please explain to me about his unresponsiveness to my messages co’z I’m getting frustrated thinking if he’s loosing interest already or just really too busy at work. Any advice you can give me is really much appreciated. Thank you so much!
Honestly I doubt it… He wouldn’t tell you all that due to OSPEC
Hi, I mat a Marine guy on Facebook he says he’s deployed n station out in Syria for peace keeping. I not to sure if I should believe him r not ,he sends me picture of himself ,been texting on Hangout for almost a month ,calls me when ever he gets a chance ,I have so much respect for guys n uniforms,but I’m just not to sure.Does this sound like a scam??
I also recently started talking to a deployed service man online. I was sceptical of course. when I expressed my concern about internet-based scammers. he was upset that i didn’t believe him,but immediately sent me a photo of his badge and a follow up photo of his deployment badge. maybe he could send yout something like that,or you could ask for a specific pose in a photo so you can make sure it’s him and for sure a current photo.
Wow sounds familiar! The marine I met online1month ago! Sends me all kinds of pictures but won’t send me one of a pose I ask him for! Restrictions he says! He’s supposed to be from the state’s but has a accent! Says he can’t get to his money! And not texting me as often due to his phone acting up! NEEDS a new one!
Probably the same guy I’m talking too. Does he have an accent?
Do Google reverse image searches. Contact ScamHaters United. Check out my Pinterest ant you will see many many military identity have been stolen
Whats his name i hope hes not texting us both
Yes, it’s sound like scam to me and all scammers always asking you to go on hangouts, I met 3 of them last year and they always say they on Peacekeeping in Syria and Afghanistan.
Then they asked for money and iTunes Amazon Google Play and Steam gift cards.
Do not send them money or gift cards.
So be careful please.
If the people with concerns about scammers would post the names of the people who they are talking to…that would potentially help out others who are questioning it and could be talking to the same person or someone using the same info.
I agree, it makes me nervous because he sounds perfect but I’m scared that it is all a fantasy.
This is good idea. It will be helpful if there will be any process to send pic of the guy to identify whether they are real army or not
Go check at ScamHater United page on Facebook then you will fine a lot stolen pictures of US. Military that been using by Scammers to educate yourself.
Or Military Romance Scam page on Facebook.
Just be careful if they asked for money or gift cards then they are scammers!!!
Real Military do not ask for money or gift card.
Maybe it’s just me, but why on earth does it seem like everyone feels the need to talk to their deployed soldier daily? He’s deployed … he’s busy … he’s focused on his job … it’s insane to think that someone would be upset that they couldn’t talk to their soldier daily. Hello … not that long ago you’d be lucky to hear from them with a letter every couple weeks.
My soldier and I use FaceTime audio once a week, and we are both good with that. We had tried using the video, but it kept cutting out, so we switched to audio. Yes, it means I don’t get to see him, but I still get to hear his voice, and I have pictures of him all over the house.
Neither of us are big talkers, but we still manage to have a decent conversation once a week. If we talked all week long, it would end up feeling forced, in my opinion. Talking once a week allows us to actually have a weeks worth of things to converse about. There are topics that are (obviously) off-limits, but I get to hear all about his crazy co-workers, and he gets to hear all about my week.
Anyway … end of my rant … thanks for listening.
Here, here!!!
I feel stupid for asking, but I recently started talking to a marine and he says hes deployed to Afghanistan. I know they are limited to what they can tell you and all that but he is trying to say he cant call cant video chat and when I asked for an address to write or send something he told me he cant tell me that either. He says he wants me there when he comes home and touches down for homecoming and i have expressed my doubts that he is even real but he has been patient and kind and is consistent with his explanation that they have a ton of restrictions. he doesn’t ask me for anything, we email and text on hang out and it’s at random hours and hell say he has to go in middle of conversation which I get if hes telling the truth. But is this a scam or Is it legit. Because to me something’s just dont add up, like the no picture thing. I have some pictures of him but If I asked him to take one right now and send it to me he says he cant, or if I ask him to even send a recording of his voice he says he cant. I’m not sure what to believe. like I said I have expressed my doubts to him. does this make sense to any of you or is it a scam.
Scam
If you talked to him on hangouts it’s a scam!!!
I feel so bad but OMG who is this husband. My husband is a SOCOM and I never had any of these issues. Seriously don’t cry? Come on. He might not want to talk to you. Please stop!! This is horrible advice. Be yourself. Now and days these wars are not as intense since when the war just started. So if they don’t want to talk to you. They honestly just don’t want to talk to you. Because they are way more available then you think. They can literally order things off line and get it shipped to them. If you want to talk nasty to your husband do it. Do what ever you can to make yourself and your husband happy while you are apart. If they ask for noise cancelling headphones tell them to it is their problem!
How can we stop all the scams and basically identity theft going on social media.
Bryson Lewis, I believe is a scammer on IG. I’ve had many supposed military deployed men sending friend requests. Once they call, their accent is African.
They are scammers from Nigeria when they claimed to be US. Military.
So don’t except the request and report their account to Instagram!!!
I was only three weeks into a new “relationship” with a guy when he deployed (we both knew he was deploying but went on several dates anyway). We haven’t “defined the relationship” yet, but he wanted to write letters back and forth while he was gone and said he expects to resume the “relationship” when he gets back, which is in 9 months, if that’s what I wanted also. He’s been overseas for almost three weeks now, he called me before he left and said he’d call me and give me his address once he got there and got settled. In these three weeks he has sent me a couple snapchats and we had a brief conversation over instagram in which I had jokingly said I was still waiting for his address. But I still have not gotten the address, nor a call. We’ve had very little communication. But I can tell he’s been active on social media. I’m very new to all this and have never been in a situation like this before. Should I be concerned? Or is it normal to have this lack in communication? Please advise!
It’s ok. Just don’t let it go to your head. It is normal for communication to be hard on deployments, but he will contact you at some point. Just, stay strong for him 🙂 I know it’s hard, trust me. I’m living in Idaho and my husband is in Japan. I haven’t seen him for 7 months. But, you’re gonna make it. If you’d like to talk more, feel free to email me (idahowildflower17@gmail.com) We can get through this.
Move on. He is not that into you. If he was, you would have had the address BEFORE he deployed
The hardest part for me is being so far away, I live in Idaho, while my husband lives in Japan (I know, confusing. But that’s a long story.) I love reading things like this and knowing that I’m not the only one going through this. I haven’t physically seen my husband in about 7 months….but he’s coming here for Christmas! Can’t wait to see my man…
Can you help me I met a person on IG who is in the US Army but was not sure of him so I searched his name on FB and found The name of this person but with another picture. I contacted the person on FB and after a few weeks that person contacted me. Since then the person on FB has been talking with me for sometime now. He wanted to stay friends since then he has been deployed and calls me and send’s me pictures of him. Now we plan to facetime. He talks to me on hangouts and always say’s goodnight and good morning. He is joining me in a few weeks time. Do you think he is real. There is now another soldier using his name but have heard his voice and has an accent plus he calls me Lady so thinking this other one is a scam any advice you can give me would be of help. Thank you Oh the second man talk’s to me on IG but won’t send me a picture of him.
I get that also and he has a accent as well what is his name
Just have to be careful with IG and Facebook that they claimed to be US. Military on deployment and talk to you on Hangouts and after asking you for money or gift cards then it is a Scam!!!
Yes I too met a man
Who tells me hes in Afghanistan and he cant face time or call
Going on 2 months I’m worried is this true or a scamm In the works
Scam.
Curious if a soldier can change their details in less than a month. I already feel it’s a scam but your confirmation will help. I met (scott) on uniformdating.com and he was great. Now he is supposed to be coming home on the 30th but needs money to get station moved from DC to NJ. Like I said i feel the scam. I really hate these scammers wasting our time!!
I too met someone on a dating app. He got deployed to A country in Africa. Haven’t called or FaceTime each other yet, but he sends me pics almost everyday. Says I need to contact the army commander in order for me to contact him so we can talk on the phone. It’s a first time I am talking to someone in the military so I am not familiar with it. He even sent me a picture of a sign that says “no phone calls, no video calls on base” yet he texts me all the time. So I don’t know. Then he mentioned that I send him a laptop so we can talk.
Sara, that is a scam.
I meet a guy who says he in the military online we been texting two weeks straight,then he said he been deployed to Africa and he be away for 4 weeks, which are up at the weekend and we communicate on what’s apps,but since he been deployed for nearly 4 weeks,I had no phone calls, texts,so I don’t know what to do, as I been hearing about guys been soldiers, and scammed woman online,but I been though this before,but this time it’s seem different ,if I been scammed again i going to feel brouen heart,but I was not stupid to send anything
What is his name if you don’t mind and where is he based normally.
Hi, I too reasonably met an Navy military man and been chatting every on hangouts, yes I got pictures of him but not new picture, he said he will be back to US by end of this March and got package want to send me to help him keep up until he gets back, yes he did asked me to buy iTunes cards for him and I did but now about the package I don’t know should I receive it or not because I still have some suspicion about him like when we talk his accent is not American.
A real man doesn’t ask a woman he doesn’t know that well to send him gifts. Be careful about meeting people online if that is what happened. There are many users out there.
Don’t. Scam you out of $$$$
It’s a scam so do not except his package because they will ask you to pay for Customs Fee which a lot of money!!!
It was happened to me before.
For the iTunes card a scammer from Nigeria always ask you to buy it.
A real US. Military will not ask you for money or gift card.
So be careful please.
Hi i too have met someone from the dating app Hinged. he said he is from constantia, SA..and is in the airforce.. when we started chatting he was in Miami..(I live in Fort Lauderdale) for two weeks was deployed here for two weeks on a special assignment…then he recently got deployed to kuwait.. i spoke with him and he has an African accent but I think he spoke like that just for me to hear his voice..he has told me his mother is American and father is African and him and his mom moved to Chicago from 1995 to 2000 and been in the states since then but travels back to South Africa offten…he’s very articulate no misspelled works and he tells me everything, doesn’t ask me for money or anything and he will be retired next year and wants to be with me, relocate in Florida, buy a house and start a family with me…he has falling in love with me at such a short time..and o seem to be the same way.. should i feel that he is scamming me..even though I’m not getting that vibe from him ..🤷🏾♀️ and i told him that I almost got scammed before and he was a bit upset that someone would do that and he is not and will not hurt me…
I was (and am) a military wife. During thoe days, we did NOT have the technology to communicate. He just left on exercise for 4 or 8 weeks. We did not know where. We had no means to communicate. We had to wait it out. Or if he was deployed out of the country, no choice but to write. You had to « tough it out » back then. And we survived. Made me stronger. Autonomous. Independant. Not that I didn’t miss him but there was no other choice. Part of choosing the guy you are with. Today, you can see him through Facetime or Skype. Better? Dunno. Worst? Dunno. Different times.
Hi! There is this military guy that added me on Facebook and saying that he is deployed in Nigeria for peacekeeping for the Boho terrorist and we have been chatting on Facebook messenger but sometimes he would ask me to use the app Google Hangouts saying that he is tired of using Facebook for probably 2 weeks. I have heard of all this Military romance scam. He hasn’t shown any signs of asking for money, iTunes, Amazon or any other gift cards or electronic items. I am very skeptical about it. He only sends messages but when i accidentally pressed the call button, he messaged me saying that his commander is there and is waking up his colleagues with cold water and he will get in trouble. The way he construct his messages seems all in correct grammar. I don’t know if he is a scammer or not. Help?
No peacekeeping in Nigeria.
And a lot of scammers from Nigeria!!!
So just be careful.
Check out on ScamHater United page and Military Romance Scam on Facebook to educate yourself.
I hope to hear something back from one of you with more experience in dating a military, even if it’s not happy news. Here is my story:
I met a Marine on the weekend away, I went to visit a friend in NC, and we met in a bar. We had a great night, and, at that point, we did not exchange any personal information, only phone numbers. I went back to my state, and life goes on, of course, I was thinking of him. He was charming, fun, and a great kisser, haha. So we began to text, every day, and the times were a little off… till I learned that he was a Marine, and it made sense. Well, we live in different states, but we kept talking every day, exchanging pictures, talking about life and you know, getting to know each other. He was going to visit his family during the holidays, and the flight back had a layover in my town. We made plans to see each other and spend a few hours together. During his vacation of 10 days, we talked a lot, every day, and then we finally saw each other again on his way back to his base. We had a great time; we just clicked! He was sad to leave, and so was I. We made silly plans, exchanged caring messages, and he told me he was about to be transferred to a different state and unit. I was about to go to visit my friend again, and we made plans to see each other before the move. We kept talking every day, even things like “I like you” blablabla. But ok, I was not looking for a relationship, just enjoying meeting him and looking forward to spending more time together. Well, in the end, he was not able to get any day off that weekend, and he explained why. Ok, no biggie. It was the weekend after new year’s when Trump’s attacked the middle east. We were talking normally until Sunday. I felt that he was quieter than usual, and he said he was upset that we didn’t get to see each other that weekend and that we would meet again, he just didn’t know when or where yet.
I went back to my state; I was busy, so I did not text him the following day, and neither did him. Then I did the next day, and it has been a week since we last talked. He has not replied to my message – I just sent one wishing that everything was fine due to the news I saw on tv, and for him to let me know if he was safe. I read on the news that a lot of troops from his unit got deployed to the middle east last minute, but he was about to be transferred to somewhere else. I am just worried, and I wish I knew if he is safe. I don’t see any other reasons why he would disappear like that. But I can be wrong as well. Any feedback would be kindly appreciated.
Hey everyone, I have been dating my military guy for over a year now. He was deployed to Qatar also. He is a Staff Sergeant in the army. I won’t give too much info but he is in between bases at times, but with this coronavirus going around I’m not sure exactly what they’re doing and he couldn’t explain much to me the last we spoke about a week ago. Is it normal for them not to be able to communicate for a week or more at times? I’m very independent but this does get to me. and all I can do is try to distract myself..
Can you hear them if they video call u
Hey there….happened upon this while googling some stuff…a friend of mine has fallen with someone who is deployed but I am scared she is being catfished or something…she is falling hard and supposedly when he comes home in February in 3 months they are gonna buy a house and get married but they have yet to even speak and have only talked via texting…is it real are there deployments that keep active military personnel from being able to Skype with loved ones for the entirety of their deployment? Any information would be amazingly helpful.
Thanks,
A concerned over protective friend
I miss my fiance with all my heart refuse interface time me always out for my info
I’m a new military girlfriend and he tells me he can’t video call me or call me he asked for a I tune card so he can have he’s friend to tell he’s Commander to let him going home to marry me as soon as possible so we can be together so is he a scammer
Hye I’m new and from Germany and I’m a army girlfriend. He writing with me on hung out and hi says hi need help for his Portfolio where hi have hi private things in with money card and glasses and else and the deployment security hi is helpful to send this to me wen I pay 600 € . So my question I’m scammed? Or is hi real , hi is in Syria and can not make a call or face call about warzone hi say and hi is general. Please help me … best regards from Germany