I’ve never minded when my husband got orders, and we had to move. It meant we could start all over again. I mean, yes, having to pack everything is a pain and saying goodbye to friends is never easy. But the flip side meant we could explore a new place.
Having said that, I always worry my husband will get orders overseas, and I don’t want to go there again. We were at RAF Lakenheath for three years. I actually grew up in various Air Force bases overseas since my mother was in the military.
I was in Italy. Germany. Belgium. And don’t get me wrong, all those places were fantastic. I love history! I love to visit these places.
I just don’t want to live there.
A lot of people I’ve told this to think I’m crazy for not wanting to go back. “But it’s beautiful over there!” they’ll argue. Or I’ll get the whole, “You can travel cheaply!” Yeah, I know. But with my husband’s job, he doesn’t exactly get a bunch of leave to do this.
I really don’t want to go overseas again. And here’s why.
1. You hate being so far away from family.
I always worry something might happen. If something happens, it means we have to pay a lot of money for plane tickets to get back to the states. On top of worrying, I feel detached from everyone. They all continue with get-togethers and we can’t be there. Skype and Facetime helps, but it’s not the same. Not to mention having a baby with my service member while abroad…
2. The plane ride is too long.
I’m one of those people who hate to fly. Having to be in a tiny space for 8+ hours makes me nervous. I panic with every odd sound I hear.
3. You miss Target.
I know, I know. This is ridiculous. But I do. I love Target and no other store compares to it in my eyes. When we were in England I went to Tesco a few times, and it was lovely, but it’s not Target.
4. You even start to miss commercials.
When we were in England we had Sky TV and I started to miss the silly American commercials. Growing up when I was overseas I had AFN commercials, which are incredibly cheesy. (Seriously. Look up AFN commercials on YouTube.)
5. The conveniences of the States feels more like home.
I enjoy being able to walk down the street and finding a store or a place to eat. If you’re driving and miss a turn you can easily get off at the next exit. In England if you missed a turn you had to drive for what seemed like forever to turn back around.
6. It seems dangerous to be overseas these days.
I know not ALL places are like this. And I know there are places in the United States that are dangerous. (You always hear about shootings here too!) But when I hear about bombings and shootings in cafes over there, it worries me.
7. Some people automatically hate Americans.
This can happen even if you haven’t done a thing wrong.
I didn’t like the mean looks we’d sometimes get. I wanted to say, “I’m a nice American, I promise!” Granted, most people were friendly if you were friendly or attempted to speak their language, but some immediately thought, “Here’s some rude Americans!”
8. Mail takes forever to get there.
I’m impatient. I like getting my mail two days later.
9. Some places won’t even ship over there.
Since I’m a blogger, sometimes companies will send me stuff to review. But some companies are unable to send to PO Boxes or to an overseas address. This impacts my work. Yes I could have it sent to my parents and they could send it to me, but sometimes that could take too long.
10. You miss out on all the new foods that come out.
You know those new Oreo flavors? I need those. New soda flavor? Yes please. The commissary doesn’t always get stuff like that. Again, I could have people send stuff to me, but again, I am rather impatient.
Obviously if my husband got orders overseas I’d suck it up and go. But I’m hoping our current base is our final base. However, I’ve learned a long time ago that the military likes to surprise you.
So I guess we’ll have to wait and see.
Do you like being overseas?
Amber Myers is a proud military wife and mother to two kids who drive her to eat lots of chocolate. She blogs over at Airing My Laundry. You can find her on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Pinterest.
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