Hi everyone, I’m Marie from Normal Everyday Life guest posting for Lauren today. I’m here to talk about going on vacation without the kids. Sound like the impossible dream? Keep reading and maybe I’ll be able to convince you otherwise!
Who doesn’t fantasize about what they’ll do on vacation? We hope to sit in the sun and relax. Go sightseeing at a leisurely pace. Enjoy wonderful meals out. What?!? That’s not how your vacations usually work? Mine, either.
There are lots of joys in taking a family vacation, but relaxing is often not one of them. For that reason, and so many more, we enjoy getting away without the children every so often.
For the past two summers, it has worked out that my husband and I have been able to take a week long trip by ourselves while our kids are at summer camp. Let me just say, awesome, does not even begin to describe getting away together ALONE!
We’ve discovered some benefits to spending time away together that I’d like to share with you today. We’ve noticed we experience these even if we can only get away for a night or two!
Four Benefits to Vacationing Alone
Time to Reconnect: I love our family life and I love our kids, but someday it will be just me and Steve again. I want to be able to look forward to that day with happy anticipation. Getting away from home and family responsibilities allows us to see each other at our best again. It gives us the time to focus on and rediscover that person living in the same house we do!
Choose the Destination: A lot of the places that interest me do not interest my kids. When they go on vacation, they want the beach or an amusement park. They’re looking for entertainment, not relaxation. When we’re by ourselves, we set the agenda without guilt and can do things the kids would consider completely boring.
Feel Younger: Remove me from parenting responsibilities and I feel ten years younger! It’s an amazing feeling to only have to think about yourself for a little while. All of sudden, I’m not a suburban mother of five…I’m young and hip!
Eat What You Want As Long As You Want: Mealtimes become a special event. There are no chicken fingers, french fries, or hotdogs on the menu. If we want appetizers and desserts, no problem! We can linger at the table and finish whole conversations uninterrupted.
The first time we got away by ourselves after we had kids was when my oldest was a year old. It was hard to leave her even though it was just for one night. In fact, the only reason we went was because of positive peer pressure! Friends that were further along in the parenting process planned it and insisted it would be good for us. You know what? They were right! Since then we’ve tried to take little weekend trips away once every year or two. The past two years were the only time we’ve been able to get away a week at a time.
Always, without fail, I dread any trip we take alone right up until we leave. It’s hard to plan childcare and I worry about what might happen when I’m gone. There are so many little things that fill my mind and I hate saying goodbye to my children. Truth be told, I’m kind of a mess! But also always, without fail, I start to relax when we’re on our way and end up having a great time!
Your turn. Have you gotten away without the kids? Was it wonderful? Did you need some friendly peer pressure to take the plunge, too?
Marie Perrigo writes at her blog, Normal Everyday Life. Marie is a Nashville, TN mom of five who enjoys writing about the ups and downs of motherhood. She also likes DIY projects and anything creative. She welcomes you to connect with her via Normal Everyday Life!
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