Hi Everyone, I am Natasha and I blog over at Epic Mommy Adventures, where I share the ins and outs of being a single parent and sharing advice to other single parents. But I write about so much more – potty training, family fun, toddler adventures – and I even share a few link ups to connect others
I’m here today to share my guest post on taking a mini-vacation without your kids to come back refreshed, rejuvenated, and ready to take on all the epic moments of parenthood. Thank you so much to Lauren for having me here this week, and sharing my story.
As I mentioned previously, I am a single mom. So that means I don’t have a lot of spare time to do anything, and even when I do, 99% of the time my son is right there with me. But there’s always that moment where your child jumps off the washing machine and onto his bed which in your mind (and my mind too) looks like him jumping over the Grand Canyon, and watching the same episode of Peppa Pig for the millionth time, when you just snap. I need a break!!
Well, this happened just a few short weeks ago…I was sitting on the sofa with my son jumping over me and onto to the next sofa – over and over and over again. And I learned finally that I’d had enough – I needed a break from him, even it’s just for a few hours.
I texted my friend (who is somewhat of a surrogate grandmother to my son and mother to me), and asked her to watch my son for a couple of hours. I was trying to keep calm about it, but she obviously heard the desperation even through the text and immediately called me. She quickly agreed to take my son for a couple of hours, and even overnight – as long as I needed it. I thanked her a million times before hanging up.
She called me back within 10 minutes and said, “Get him dressed, and pack some spare clothes, pajamas, and toys. I’m coming to get him – I’ll be there in 5 minutes.”
I quickly did as she asked, and within 15 minutes, they were all gone.
My break/mini-vacation began just like that…because a vacation to me is any time, short or long, where I can hear the echo of my apartment and not the crashing or banging that my son would be causing.
First on my agenda was a luxuriating bath…I blew the dust off the bottle of bubble bath that I got from Bath & Body Works ( I can’t even read the name on the bottle anymore) a few years ago, and I turned on the hot water. The tub filled up quickly and I stepped in…it wasn’t 5 minutes I was in the tub that I drifted off to sleep.
I woke up after one of my infamous 10 minute power naps, got dressed and went on to the second item on my agenda…a pedicure.
I arrived at my favorite nail salon feeling refreshed. I sat in the chair, turned on the massage, and let the technician work on my feet. Within 5 minutes, I fell asleep again. The technician shook me slightly to wake me up when she was all done. I was so happy with the results – and I tipped her well for dealing with me moving around as I napped.
Next on the agenda…getting my hair done. Since my favorite hair salon is only a few doors down from the nail salon in the same shopping center, I made my way down to the hair salon to get my hair done. I had been wearing a ponytail for a few months at this point, so it would be nice to get my hair done while I had the time. The stylist worked magic on my hair, even though I fell asleep both times I was under the hair dryer, and even nodded off while she was styling my hair. She is so talented that she didn’t even burn me when I nodded off as she straightened my hair with the flat iron. She just laughed it off and kept on working on my hair.
At this point, I was starting to feel hungry. So I headed off to Cheesecake Factory for an early dinner. I absolutely love Cheesecake Factory, but I rarely go to restaurants anymore. There is just too much to do and too little time. So being able to indulge for a change was a guilty pleasure, and an enjoyable one too. I filled myself with Jamaican Black Pepper Chicken & Shrimp and Raspberry Lemonade, along with 2 slices of Lemon Raspberry Creme Cheesecake. I even had a pina colada – they make it with Cruzan rum there, which is rum made in the US Virgin Islands (where I was raised my entire childhood).
Full and content, I made my way home. Before I could fully walk into the house and sit on the sofa, I was asleep. And that’s where I stayed the majority of the night…I just moved a few times to actually lay down on the sofa versus sitting upright all day. And finally, I made my way to the bed where I slept like a baby – no kicking me in the back or in the face, no waking up at ungodly hours to grab a cup of milk – it was bliss.
I woke up in the morning, and went to pick up my lil man from my friend’s house. He was so excited to see me. He ran up to me, from his little perch at the kitchen table eating his breakfast, and gave me such a big hug. I missed him so much, but mommy needed a mini-vacation before I could get back into the grind of being a better and happier mommy. It was so completely worth it.
Natasha blogs over at Epic Mommy Adventures, where she shares her every day epic adventures as a single mom to her son, and shares tips for other single parents to navigate the ins and outs of parenthood. She is a contributor to the Mother of All Meltdowns, an anthology focused on the adult-sized meltdown, and a board member of the International Bloggers Association, which focuses on helping bloggers expand their audience by providing opportunities to share and be shared by other members of the community.
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